On the Throne

Returning to the throne isn’t about ego—it’s about alignment. It’s what happens when you stop explaining your growth, defending your peace, or apologizing for your evolution. But once you’ve reclaimed your voice, your space, your power—what then? You stop performing and start embodying. You stop defending your clarity and start living from it. And when you’re met with resistance, silence, or misinterpretation? You don’t flinch. You don’t shrink. You remain still—because stillness is now your strategy. From Nelson Mandela’s decades of dignified silence, to Rosa Parks’ quiet defiance, and even Elphaba’s refusal to “stay grounded,” I’ve learned this: You don’t need to yell to shake the room. You just need to stop shrinking. ⸻ 5 Tools for Living On the Throne 1. Silence as a Strategy Stop announcing your boundaries. Start walking in them. Practice: Pull back without the speech. Reminder: “If I have to explain the boundary, I’m still negotiating it.” 2. Responding with Clarity Not every question deserves an answer. Not every feeling is yours to carry. Practice: Speak in statements, not performances. Reminder: “Clarity doesn’t mean cruelty—it means clean communication.” 3. Anchoring Without Apology You don’t need to explain your shift to people who benefited from your confusion. Practice: Write down three things you’ll no longer apologize for. Reminder: “I’m not being distant. I’m being sovereign.” 4. Create from Power, Not Pain Let the silence become fuel. Make art that reflects the new version of you—not the one that needed to be rescued. Practice: Share from conviction, not survival. Reminder: “They don’t need to understand. They need to feel it.” 5. Daily Throne Ritual Each morning, say to yourself: “I return to the throne. I do not perform. I do not chase. I do not shrink. I lead with presence. I respond with clarity. I reign in silence.” ⸻ You don’t need permission to live fully. You don’t need defense to speak truthfully. You are enough, even when quiet. Sit. Create. Reign.